Wallflower

This is not originally my writing, but it’s actually a translation of an excerpt from a book. I know it’d much favorable to read something like this from world-known writers or eminent philosophers but for me, wisdom words come from anyone – strangers or even beggars on the streets. We don’t know what they’ve going through their lives and I believe that one thing that make a wise man wise is not the clothes on his body nor the titles he carry before his name, but his experience(s) in life. Of course, not all of others’ experience you could apply to your life but at least, to keep yourself positive and moving on – that’s the key to me reading books.

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(From the book,「できそのないの知」written by ウエンツ瑛士.

For sharing purpose only. No copyright infringement intended. )

Have confidence to talk about one thing (just one)

"I hate to be defensive. I want to be an outgoing person." 

We heard this quite often and I actually feel every bit of this feeling. And at the same time, I think it's important to have a thought like this;

"I want to be different, like this, or like that!" 

 I don't really have this kind of thought, so I kind of respect those who're dying to change, and think this way. People who never thought to change won't go anywhere, that's a sure thing I can say.

 

With job like this, I have a lot of parties to attend to. But in the parties with numerous of unfamiliar faces gathered, seriously it'd be easier to be at the corner.

While saying that those who never had the feeling to change won't go anywhere, I'm the one who'd wish to be a wallflower if I'm stuck in that situation. I'd rather wait in silence for the time flies away than try hard to talk with strangers fraying my nerve.

But most of us, once back home, while breathing their sighs, they'd sit on the sofa and say, 

"I should've talked more" 

...in their regrets.

Well, to hold on to 'being a wallflower' might be a way to live it, but for those who'd like to be more outgoing, I think you should have more confidence in yourself. I believe I can't be an outgoing one because I'm lack of confidence. So, it's just a simple conclusion : you need to have confidence in order to be more outgoing.

I've heard the story that, one could talk to friends without hesitations during schoolhood but as they become a part of society (start working), they can't talk like they used to anymore. Perhaps, one can speak their mind (boldly) during schoolhood is because, they have their own self-identity. But becoming a society person, they learn to please others, losing their own self. They become a part of the others, they can no longer have their own steadfastness. That's what I think.

You definitely can be an outgoing one when you have a confidence to talk about one thing, just one, in front of others. And it's not limited to something laughable to be considered interesting.